«Anyone who has walked the earth even for a short while knows that change is not only possible, it is probable. In fact, many changes seem to happen right out from under us. No doubt we plan some changes; at other times change just seems to find us.»
Margaret Stortz
You may have had your own experiences of unexpected change, and unless you were getting a «dream come true» kind of change, it probably shook your world while you sorted it out. Most of us carry around in our mind a picture of what our life will be as we go along, and change will shatter that picture – maybe small changes, maybe large changes.
Most of us have learned, the hard way, that change exists to widen our grasp of possibilities, not just to disturb our lives. Most of us don’t go into serious episodes of change without being pushed, because we first want security. And security is usually a casualty of change.
It’s actually a false sense of security that we have, because who can guarantee what surprises the future may hold for us? When you don’t get or lose something or somebody you have invested time, energy, and feelings, you suffer and experience pain. You get angry and confused because you thought that you were doing everything «right». However, what resulted doesn’t have to be the down of a negative chapter in your life. You can use it as a growth spurt in your consciousness that you would have missed without the change.
It is important to understand and learn that in times of change we should look for the gift. Now, that’s hard to do while you’re in the middle of it, but one must noticed that if we don’t do that, we’ll end up without the gift and with a sour and grumpy life.
You don’t particularly want to be known as «grumpy» for the rest of your life. And if you were, you probably wouldn’t want to switch your attitude towards changes and welcome change and embrace what it brings to you. You’ll find the gift in there if you look.